What You Need to Know Under the New AHRA Regulations

The Assisted Human Reproductive Act (“AHRA”) governs all aspects of assisted reproductive technology in Canada. So whether you are an international Intended Parent (IP) or a Canadian surrogate, you are governed by this legislative framework. How you establish legal parentage for a child born through ART is prescribed by provincial laws that are not all created equal. For the last 10 years  IPs, Surrogates and Gametes Donor (sperm or ovum) have lacked a definitive schema, without regulations, by which to guide their IVF process. The law defining reimbursable expense did not exist but severe penalties did. This created uncertainty in the advising process for surrogacy and donor agreements due to gaps in the federal law.

We will touch on a few of the legal paradigms about to change and highlight them for you as this gap has now been addressed by the federal government. This article addresses several of the areas, as follows:

Gametes Donations (Egg or Sperm)

Basically, the new regulations sets out in Section 8, Consent for Use of Human Reproductive Material and In Vitro Embryos, the rules respecting the consent for the use of human reproductive material and in vitro embryos. What this means is that the donor must provide consent in the form of a signed document which must prescribe a number of enumerated factors.

Section 10 under the AHRA setting out the safety and storage requirements for gametes is a separate topic and the subject of upcoming article pending on site visits with various clinics.

Reimbursements Related to the AHRA Regulations – Section 12

What are acceptable expenses are set out with the process required to provide substantiate them such as receipts and a specified doctor’s declaration for wage loss during pregnancy.

There are still grey areas including childcare, travel, and maternity clothing. If we keep in mind a legal test we refer to as “But for”, in other words, but for the pregnancy would this be a reasonable expense for the Surrogate to incur, we will remain on side! But it is always the best practice to consult with your fertility lawyer to clarify how the new regulations will impact your journey.

The Journey of Surrogacy

The journey of surrogacy develops not only for each cluster of Intended Parents & Surrogate but also as our understanding grows respecting the commitment and passion of Surrogates as a group.  Each successful birth signifies another positive outcome for a family and further strengthens the role of surrogacy in our society.

For several years, I attended the “Men Having Babies” Conference in San Francisco to learn more about the mechanics of the IVF process including the science and the American legalities.  However, what was more evident to me, beyond the practicalities, was the compassion and serenity of the women who attended and represented the voice of surrogacy as ambassadors for a brave new world of understanding. The program “Sacred Surrogacy” developed by Leia Swanberg, founder of Canadian Fertility Consulting (CFC), captures the essence of the journey these women embark on, taking it to even greater heights.

The women I met at the Conference and all my surrogate clients are certain of who they are and their role (their bun, my oven) by embodying strength, nurturance and clarity.  Non-surrogates are urged to become aware of these characteristics, to provide support and thereby ease the inevitable ups and down of the journey.

I believe that in addition to representing Intended Parents (IPs), I now have a greater insight to support the role of the Surrogate and I am committed to being a strong advocate for all my clients.  On this basis, I bring a keen awareness to my work, in particular, representing the parties in the stage of contract drafting.

We need to negotiate terms for our clients that will provide greater comfort and convenience and be vigilant in these efforts.

For example, requesting a provision that the Surrogate will breast feed has health benefits for both the child and Surrogate, without bonding, as the Surrogate is mindful of what needs to occur for a mutually beneficial recovery which boosts baby’s immunity for a life-time and does not require a relationship.

When I represent IPs, I bring this insight to negotiate a balanced and fair contract for my clients.  My IPs appreciate this understanding of the needs of the Surrogate to ensure their journey together will be as positive and joyful as possible. My clients also benefit from the extensive network of fertility professionals that I have developed over the years to address both the evolving provincial and federal laws, bringing surrogacy into the mainstream.

The above are examples that require the attention of counsel but can add immeasurably to the post–birth recovery and ensure a positive journey for all parties and the child! Be sure your fertility lawyer is familiar with not only the developing law but the needs of the parties. Being a family and fertility lawyer certainly helps!

Are Pre-Nups Romantic?

Yes, and more.

A Pre-Nup or Marriage Agreement ** is a practical way to show your spouse that you love them. It says you are concerned about their future, want to protect them and are committed to your relationship.

Your spouse may have assets earned through many years of hard work, or remaining after a previous divorce, or inherited from their parents with the expectation they will pass them onto their own children. Or the love of your life may have agreed to leave a good paying job to live with you in your community. To protect your spouse’s assets, estate or future, you can set out in an Agreement how you will own property during your relationship, if you separate or if one of you dies.

You can also include agreements on how you will share your incomes, own a house, or help your adult children or elderly parents.

While we’ve all heard a nasty story or two about someone being handed a Pre-Nup to sign hours before the wedding ceremony – this is not the norm.

Negotiating an Agreement does NOT need to be stressful or adversarial. If there are matters you think would be difficult to raise with your spouse, we can help you. After you’ve discussed them with your spouse, and reached some agreements, you’ll appreciate that they’ve been resolved.

The time and money spent on a Marriage Agreement is a good investment in your relationship and your future.


** “Pre-Nups” or “Pre-Nuptial Agreements” – are American words. The equivalent term under our BC Family Relations Act is a “Marriage Agreement”. For people living common law, we use the term “Cohabitation Agreement.”

Disclaimer: The above information is given as information only and is not given as legal advice. Do not rely on this information as advice for your specific circumstances. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law about the specific facts of your circumstances to get advice on how the law applies to you.

How to finalize an adoption in BC?

Most adoptive parents look forward to getting that final document, the court order for their adoption. Finalizing an adoption in BC involves an application to the Supreme Court after meeting all the requirements of our Adoption Act. The adoptive parent or parents must be residents of BC (the definition of “resident” is set out in the adoption legislation); the child to be adopted may be born in BC, another province in Canada, or in another country.

The major requirements for an adoption application are as follows:

  • If the adoptive parents are not related to the child to be adopted by blood or marriage, the adoption must be facilitated by one of the adoption agencies in BC;
  • The necessary court documents must be prepared and filed. These include a Petition, supporting Affidavits (sworn written evidence), a report to the court from a BC adoption agency, the child’s registration of live birth document (or equivalent) and a form for BC’s department of Vital Statistics;
  • The child to be adopted must have been in the care of his or her adoptive parent(s) for at least six months before the adoption application is made; and
  • If possible, the consents of the birth parents, usually in the form of an Affidavit, must be obtained and filed with the application.

Some countries, such as China and Russia, require that adoptions be finalized in that country through a court or government office before the adoptive parents can leave with their child to return to Canada. Most provinces in Canada, many states in the United States, and countries such as Japan and the Philippines, allow adoptive parents to take their child home and then finalize the adoption in BC.

An adoption should be accompanied by a consideration of your existing will, or the making of a will if you don’t have one. We suggest adoptive parents also make Powers of Attorney to appoint one or more people to manage their finances if the parent becomes incapable; you will want to appoint someone who will take good care of you and your children.

Disclaimer: The above information is given as information only and is not given as legal advice. Do not rely on this information as advice for your specific circumstances. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law about the specific facts of your circumstances to get advice on how the law applies to you.

Where can you find reliable adoption information?

To make good decisions about adoption choices, you need reliable information, specific to the province (or state) and country in which you live. The laws regarding adoption in the province of British Columbia are different from the laws regarding adoption in Alberta or Washington State.

So, where you can you find reliable adoption information? Here are some tips:

  • Start with websites of adoption agencies, provincial and federal governments, and lawyers who specialize in adoption finalization.
  • Look for adoption agencies that are accredited under the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption. Canada is a full signatory to the Hague Convention so all adoption agencies in Canada are Hague accredited.
  • Search for programs in the countries or regions from which you may want to adopt a child.
  • Note partnerships between agencies. Sometimes there are country program partnerships between adoption agencies in different provinces or countries. If you are a resident of BC, you can adopt children from another province or from the USA. However, in both cases, you must work with an adoption agency in BC.
  • Ignore websites or agencies that offer to complete adoption applications for a flat fee in many different provinces or states. It is very difficult for a lawyer or agency to be competent in many jurisdictions.
  • Be careful about legal advice in online adoption forums or blogs, as the law in your province or country may be different, and laws and policies can change quickly.

I recommend the following websites (listed in alphabetical order):

Adoption Agencies and associations in BC and other provinces:

British Columbia:

Rest of Canada:

Adoption Agencies in the USA:

Medical information about international adoption:

More than one million children available for adoption to residents of BC

As resident of BC, you can adoption children from many provinces, states and countries. My rough estimate is that at least one million children could be matched with a resident of BC. As of May 2016, children can be adopted through our BC adoption agencies from:

  • BC and the other provinces and territories in Canada;
  • USA: The population of the USA is approximately 325 million people. There are several hundred adoption agencies in the USA. There are many newborns and older children in need of permanent families;
  • Africa: Contact an adoption agency for its Africa country programs;
  • Asia: China, India, Japan, Korea, Philippines, Taiwan, Vietnam;
  • Caribbean: Haiti;
  • Central/South America: Colombia, Guyana, Nicaragua;
  • Eastern Europe: Bulgaria, Kazakhstan, Romania;
  • Pacific Islands: Samoa.

© 2019 Karen Henry, LLB. karenhenrylaw@shaw.ca
Lawyer, West Coast Family Law Centre
1179 Fort Street, Victoria, BC, Canada, V8V 3L1

Changing a birth date for an adopted child; how to obtain a court order (declaration from a judge)

Changing a birth date for an adopted child. How to obtain a court order (declaration from a judge).

Do you need to change your child’s birth date? It may seem odd to give a child a new birthday, but this is the best course for some children adopted internationally. In the thirteen years I have practised adoption law, I have been asked by parents of children from Ethiopia, Nepal, Vietnam and the Democratic Republic of Congo how they can legally correct a child’s birth date. As an adoptive parent myself, I can sympathize with these parents. The inaccurate birth dates mean extra paperwork and advocacy for them, and may mean missed or delayed opportunities for their children.

Why are children’s birth dates inaccurate? There are many reasons. If a child has been abandoned, or found in the midst of a conflict zone, he or she may have been given an estimated birth date by orphanage staff or adoption officials. Sometimes more than one birth date may appear on a child’s official documents. Children are sometimes given birth dates to make them seem younger in the belief this will increase their likelihood of being adopted. In some countries, birth registration is not required, or birth records are missing or inadequate. Therefore, the birth records that exist may be inaccurate.

Age does matter. For many reasons, it is important that your legal birth date be similar to your chronological birth date. If a child is younger on paper than his or her chronological age, he or she may have to wait one or more years to start school or college. The discrepancy can be problematic for any activity organized by chronological age, including individual or team sports, obtaining a drivers’ licence, or getting a job. For medical matters, age is often a factor in dosages, vaccines and other treatments.

So, how can a parent correct a birth date? For adoptive parents in Canada, there are two ways to change a child’s birth date. This article will discuss one process available to residents of British Columbia, but the other Canadian provinces have a similar process. A person may apply to the Supreme Court of British Columbia for a declaration for a new birth date for a child. There is another process, in the context of making a citizenship application for a child, set out in the Immigration Canada policy manuals. I will not discuss that process in this article.

When making a declaration of a new birth date for an adopted child, the Supreme Court of British Columbia exercises its parens patriae jurisdiction. This is the very broad jurisdiction over matters affecting citizens that our superior courts have inherited from the divine right of kings. The court, however, needs reliable evidence before exercising this jurisdiction. Evidence is generally provided in sworn written documents called Affidavits. Under our current BC court rules, a request to our Supreme Court to change a child’s birth date would be set out in a Petition, with Affidavits as supporting evidence.

I recommend provided the following evidence by Affidavit:

1. A dentist’s opinion. A dentist, considering the root formation of a child’s teeth visible in an x-ray, and the presence and eruption of teeth above the gum line, may be able to provide a range of actual birth dates for the child, hopefully narrowed to a three or six month period. For teenagers, an orthodontist’s opinion may be necessary.

2. A pediatrician’s opinion. An overall assessment of the child’s development, including her gross and fine motor skills, cognitive and emotional development, and a comparison to standard growth charts is very helpful for the court. If the child is in school, the pediatrician can review the child’s report cards, and these documents may be provided to the court as well.

3. Known information about the child’s birth. A summary of the information provided to the parents by the orphanage staff, adoption facilitators, and/or government officials about the child’s birth and the circumstances leading to the child’s availability for adoption should be set out in an Affidavit.

4. A radiologist’s opinion. This is optional, but should be considered. A radiologist, after considering x-rays of the child’s hand or wrist, may be able to provide a narrow range of actual birth dates. However, the age range established by x-rays may be much broader than that established by a dentist, especially if malnutrition delayed the child’s physical growth.

In 2013, I appeared in court regarding a Petition filed on behalf of one of my clients. We had the following evidence before the court: a dentist had determined the child was born in a three month period, a pediatrician had opined the child was born in a six month period and a radiologist gave an eighteen month period for the child’s actual birth date. The narrow three month range provided by the dentist was right in the middle of the six month period provided by the pediatrician. Both of these periods were in the middle of the range provided by the radiologist. So, in the end, we asked the court to declare the child’s birth date to be a date right in the middle of the time period provided by the dentist. And so, the child had a new birthday!

© 2019 Karen Henry, LLB. karenhenrylaw@shaw.ca
Lawyer, West Coast Family Law Centre
1179 Fort Street, Victoria, BC, Canada, V8V 3L1

Disclaimer: The above information is given as information only and is not given as legal advice. Do not rely on this information as advice for your specific circumstances. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in adoption law about the specific facts of your circumstances to get personal legal advice.

Can I adopt my step-daughter? She’s an adult now.

You may want to adopt your step-child so she or he can be a beneficiary of your estate or to recognize the close parent/child relationship that you have. The main requirement is that while your step-child was under the age of 19, that he or she lived with you as a member of your family and was maintained by you until he or she became self-supporting or an adult. This requirement is set out in section 44 of the Adoption Act. Of course, your step-child must consent to the adoption, and do so in writing. The BC Supreme Court requires that the birth parents of the step-child be notified of the adoption, so that they can object or consent to the adoption.

If you are married to your step-child’s birth parent – and thus through that marriage became a step-parent, you will likely want to adopt under section 29(2) of the Adoption Act so that your spouse’s parental rights and responsibilities are preserved and you become a parent jointly with your spouse. If you became a step-parent through a common-law relationship, or your marriage or common-law relationship has now ended, you can still adopt your adult step-child if he or she consents.

Adoption of an adult requires a consideration of your existing Will, or the making a new Will. The effect of an adoption order would be to make you a “parent” and your step-child your “child” for legal purposes – including Wills, other estate matters, Powers of Attorney, and health care decision making. The adopting step-parent, the birth parents and the adult child to be adopted must get legal advice on the meaning and effect of an adoption order, including the effects on inheritance, before signing consents to an adoption.

Please be advised: The adoption of adults is not a means to dodge Canadian immigration policies. Trying to adopt an adult on false pretences is a breach of Canadian law and may hinder an immigration application.

Disclaimer: The above information is given as information only and is not given as legal advice. Do not rely on this information as advice for your specific circumstances. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law about the specific facts of your circumstances to get advice on how the law applies to you.

Proposal focused mediation: working with high conflict disputes

On July 24, 2015, I attended a one-day workshop on proposal-focused mediation, at the home of Michael and Tammy Lomax in Cobble Hill, Victoria B.C. It was the idyllic venue for a one-day workshop.

Michael is a prominent mediator, mentor, collaborative practitioner and trainer who teaches the methods of high conflict training, created by Bill Eddy. Michael clearly demonstrated that he has the training chops to deliver an effective method in a one-day format.

I have had the rare privilege of visiting the same village in Tuscany 2-3 times a year over 10 years when I lived in Austria, and surprisingly, Michael and Tammy’s back yard comes the closest to our favorite trattoria with its “loggia” that I have experienced so far. And if that was not enough, there were the goats and baby ducks. The locally made prosecco was a perfect accompaniment to the tasty light lunch on beautiful table settings.

With feedback ranging from “Fantastic” to “When’s the next one?”, we assume the eight Mediate BC roster participants out of a total of 26 attendees had an equally satisfying experience.

And what about the content of the workshop? High conflict disputes, as in intense or prolonged, are the most challenging to any dispute resolution professional. However the “New Ways for Mediation” by Bill Eddy provide the skills set to shift emotionally flooded clients to problem-solving by focusing on the relationship rather than the outcome. Michael presented a seamless interactive dialogue that provided theory of conflict styles in an entertaining format and then we had the opportunity to practice these newly minted skills, by way of role-playing. We all felt somewhat awkward initially, but by the end we were able to practice the three key skills: Connect with Empathy, Attention & Respect, Structure the dispute resolution from start to finish by teaching the clients to focus on the future by making proposals and agreements, and Educate them about their choices and the possible consequence of each choice. Michael emphasized tips that will resonate with me for a long time including: “the issue’s not the issue” (high conflict personalities seek to prolong the conflict as they are stuck in negative emotions so they benefit from mediators who can calm their emotions and get them back to problem-solving), and “you have a dilemma” (mediators need to keep the burden of problem-solving with the client). We received materials to provide to clients for pre-mediation coaching which I can attest to, work! Although I have been to three or four High Conflict workshops, I either learn new skills or refine existing ones. If only I can talk Michael and Tammy into a yoga retreat under the loggia!

My spouse and I share time with our children 50/50, so neither of us has to pay child support. Right?

Wrong. This is a common, but incorrect, understanding of child support; it sounds fair, but does not recognize that one parent usually has a higher income than the other and thus a greater ability to absorb the costs of providing a home for their children on a half-time basis. It also does not recognize that child support should be reviewed annually as the parents’ incomes change over time.

The Federal Child Support Guidelines (the “Guidelines”) were introduced by the federal government in 1997.  They are binding in all provinces and territories.  Although introduced under the Divorce Act, they have been adopted by many provinces and therefore apply to both unmarried and married parents.  They were adopted under BC’s Family Law Act.

Under the Guidelines, parents who share care of their children equally have a shared custody arrangement for the purposes of child support. Although section 9 of the Guidelines gives discretion to a judge to fully consider all the costs each parent incurs in providing a home for their children on a half-time basis, a simple set-off of the Guidelines table amounts is the most commonly used means for determining the amount of child support in shared custody arrangements. Here is an example of how the set-off under Guidelines works:

2019 example: The parents have two children, aged 9 and 11, who have no special needs and attend school full-time. The children have a rotating week on/off schedule: they spend one week in Dad’s care and the following week in Mom’s care. Mom works full-time as a nurse and earns $75,000 per year; her income for child support determined under the Guidelines after allowable deductions is $73,825. Dad works full-time as fire fighter and earns $110,000 per year; his Guideline income after deductions is $108,500. When we look at the Guidelines table for BC, we see the following monthly amounts of child support for the parents’ incomes:

Income One child Two children
73,700 703 1,144
73,800 704 1,145
73,900 705 1,147
109,300 1,025 1,644
109,400 1,025 1,645
109,500 1,026 1,646

To calculate the set-off amount, we subtract Mom’s monthly child support table amount of $1,145 from Dad’s monthly child support table amount of $1,645 with the result of $500. So, Dad would pay Mom $500 per month for child support.

The set-off approach is not appropriate for all family situations, and you should talk to a lawyer about the specific facts and costs of your parenting arrangements.

Special expenses: In addition, the parents would have to cover the children’s special expenses including child care, any private school costs, some extra-curricular activities, and medical, extended health and dental costs according to the ratio of their incomes. Special expenses are defined in section 7 of the Guidelines.

Disclaimer: The above information is given as information only and is not given as legal advice. Do not rely on this information as advice for your specific circumstances. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law about the specific facts of your circumstances to get advice on how the law applies to you.